Be a Role Model for Yourself
We see everyone naming some one
as his role model . Generally people will name some big celebrity , public
figure or their parents as their role model . Role model means , you want to be
like that person . Why some one else be your role model , why not you yourself
be a role model for your self . Many will be thinking what crazy thing I am
saying . Let me give you my logic for it .
When we say Mr X or Mrs Y as role
model we need to understand what made us to name them . Is it to do with the
success they have achieved in their respective field or Is it to do with they
are adored or most followed personality or are very near to our heart and soul
( parents ) or what ? We sometimes are impressed with one aspect or two of that
individual that we want to be like them . Do we know all facets of that
individual ? What do we know about that person ? How much we know about that
person ? There are many aspects , infact most aspects of the life of that
individual that we do not know .
Whom do we know most in this
world ? Its ourselves only .
Every person born in this world
is unique . Each one of us are blessed with some quality . We need to explore
them .
In my view “ You are role model
for yourself “ . Why some one should motivate you to be like that person whose
every aspect , every characteristic you don’t know .
You know what you are now , say
in 2020 . Visualise what you want to be 10 years from now . You should imagine
yourself as what you want to be . Now You of 2030 is your role model . You know
what is missing in you to be what you want to be . list down these aspects and
work on them .
For example you want to be a
great musician . Now you know what qualities you have , what you lack and what
you skill you must acquire to be a great musician . Now lets take a situation
where Mr X is your role model as
musician . Do you know what he was when he was young , what problems he faced ,
what support he got , what resistance he faced ….. . You are targeting a end
without knowing the path or what bottlenecks were in that path . You learn
about that Mr X from stories through internet or some article . These sources
might not be telling everything .
Your life is different from the
life of that person . Every one is blessed by God but some have been able to achieve
some thing and others not . Its because the first one visualised himself like
that and worked hard for that. If some one role model has been Sachin
Tendulkar and he wants to be a great batsman like him, he has to practice and play well .
Whenever we make some one a role model we only target the success ( runs and centuries scored Sachin ) which he has
achieved but what about the whole journey ? . If you really aspire to be like
some one great look what are the virtues in that person. Develop and learn that
in yourself. You know yourself best , you can mould yourself . But will you be able to reach same height or same achievement ? Thats where you will overstrech yourself and problem starts . You end up burning yourself more than what is possible within your limits .
You should be learning what
qualities are required to be what you desire to be . Develop , learn that .
Monitor the progress of “present you” with your “ future you “. The best thing
is tomorrow you due to any reason you fell short of your expectation you will
evaluate yourself only and not find excuse externally . You will not repent as
you know you know you gave your best . Whatever you will achieve that will
still make you proud of yourself . You will be much happier relishing your own
achievement rather than comparing with that of any other person .
So don’t compete with anyone but
compete with yourself . Be a role model for yourself .
