Three Dependence on Relationship
Each one of us are individual
souls , have individual life but since we are living in family , society we are
not totally isolated from others but interrelated or dependent on others . It
affects our life , our happiness , sadness etc to the extent how we view and
rely on dependence level . If we know how to detach from or minimise these
dependence level our lives will be like heaven on this earth which most people
have started equating as Hell ( Ghor Kalyug ) .
Lets evaluate each of the
dependence level and how we can minimise them .
·
Physical dependence : a child is dependent on
parents and in old age parents are dependent on their children . Its because physical
condition is not such that both a kid, a child and a very old at times can
manage their work . For young ones its natural up to an age but the earlier
parents educate their kids to be self dependent its better . For old age
dependence is not in anyones hand . No one knows till what age will live but
have some idea when body starts becoming frail . By maintaining good health
through balanced diet , regular physical exercise yoga etc one can ward off bad
health to a large extent and can lessen physical dependence to some extent . The
more good health one
·
Financial dependence : our financial need of
essentials and education is taken care by our parents till we study . Its over
once we start earning our own livelihood . Yes some parents out of love ,
affection keep giving money to their earning children . excessive financing can
lead to unnecessary expenditure and make habits bad . Once parents not able to
give money many resort to borrowing , live life on credit which can lead to
debt trap . children should also
evaluate that do they really financial support if not really required ? Either
work hard for more money for own extravagance need or limit your needs as per
your earning . Fiscal discipline is a must in everyone life . Live within your
means . The more financially independent one person is he is more happy and
stress free . Every person should ensure that he should be financially independent post retirement till his last breath . Do proper retirement planning . If financially dependent on your children then you are adding your own unhappiness and that too at fag end of your life . If financially independent in old age you live happily , get respect from your children , not considered as burden . Decide yourself .
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Emotional dependence : This is most complex
dependence of the three . Very difficult to judge the extent as is not as
visible and quantifiable like first two . Since it is most complex the least
emotional dependence on others the best it is . People say that one should have
EQ and empathy but the more someone shows toward you , the more weaker you become
mentally and psychologically . Believe in yourself and God . We do get mental
comfort if soothing words are expressed but does that solve the problem ? . It
does give you confidence and support but do we need someone else to build
confidence or remove fear in ourselves , can’t we do it for ourselves ? Meditation
, connecting with your inner self , getting answers from your inner self can do
best than words of any else human being . Spend quality time with your self ,
seek strength from your inner self and almighty .
Any person who is least dependent
physically , financially and emotionally on others is one of the happiest persons on this earth . Check
yourself and you will find what I have stated is true or not . So now you must
have realised happiness or unhappiness is all your own creation and it is due
to these 3 dependence level on others .
