Be a Role Model for Yourself

Be a Role Model for Yourself

We see everyone naming some one as his role model . Generally people will name some big celebrity , public figure or their parents as their role model . Role model means , you want to be like that person . Why some one else be your role model , why not you yourself be a role model for your self . Many will be thinking what crazy thing I am saying . Let me give you my logic for it .

When we say Mr X or Mrs Y as role model we need to understand what made us to name them . Is it to do with the success they have achieved in their respective field or Is it to do with they are adored or most followed personality or are very near to our heart and soul ( parents ) or what ? We sometimes are impressed with one aspect or two of that individual that we want to be like them . Do we know all facets of that individual ? What do we know about that person ? How much we know about that person ? There are many aspects , infact most aspects of the life of that individual that we do not know .

Whom do we know most in this world ? Its ourselves only .

Every person born in this world is unique . Each one of us are blessed with some quality . We need to explore them .

In my view “ You are role model for yourself “ . Why some one should motivate you to be like that person whose every aspect , every characteristic you don’t know .

You know what you are now , say in 2020 . Visualise what you want to be 10 years from now . You should imagine yourself as what you want to be . Now You of 2030 is your role model . You know what is missing in you to be what you want to be . list down these aspects and work on them .

For example you want to be a great musician . Now you know what qualities you have , what you lack and what you skill you must acquire to be a great musician . Now lets take a situation where  Mr X is your role model as musician . Do you know what he was when he was young , what problems he faced , what support he got , what resistance he faced ….. . You are targeting a end without knowing the path or what bottlenecks were in that path . You learn about that Mr X from stories through internet or some article . These sources might not be telling everything .

Your life is different from the life of that person . Every one is blessed by God but some have been able to achieve some thing and others not . Its because the first one visualised himself like that and worked hard for that. If some one role model has been Sachin Tendulkar and he wants to be a great batsman like him, he has to practice and play well . Whenever we make some one a role model we only target the success ( runs and centuries scored Sachin ) which he has achieved but what about the whole journey ? . If you really aspire to be like some one great look what are the virtues in that person. Develop and learn that in yourself. You know yourself best , you can mould yourself . But will you be able to reach same height or same achievement ? Thats where you will overstrech yourself and problem starts . You end up burning yourself more than what is possible within your limits .  

You should be learning what qualities are required to be what you desire to be . Develop , learn that . Monitor the progress of “present you” with your “ future you “. The best thing is tomorrow you due to any reason you fell short of your expectation you will evaluate yourself only and not find excuse externally . You will not repent as you know you know you gave your best . Whatever you will achieve that will still make you proud of yourself . You will be much happier relishing your own achievement rather than comparing with that of any other person  .

So don’t compete with anyone but compete with yourself . Be a role model for yourself .