Three Dependence on Relationship

Three Dependence on Relationship

Each one of us are individual souls , have individual life but since we are living in family , society we are not totally isolated from others but interrelated or dependent on others . It affects our life , our happiness , sadness etc to the extent how we view and rely on dependence level . If we know how to detach from or minimise these dependence level our lives will be like heaven on this earth which most people have started equating as Hell ( Ghor Kalyug ) .

Lets evaluate each of the dependence level and how we can minimise them .

·         Physical dependence : a child is dependent on parents and in old age parents are dependent on their children . Its because physical condition is not such that both a kid, a child and a very old at times can manage their work . For young ones its natural up to an age but the earlier parents educate their kids to be self dependent its better . For old age dependence is not in anyones hand . No one knows till what age will live but have some idea when body starts becoming frail . By maintaining good health through balanced diet , regular physical exercise yoga etc one can ward off bad health to a large extent and can lessen physical dependence to some extent . The more good health one

  

·         Financial dependence : our financial need of essentials and education is taken care by our parents till we study . Its over once we start earning our own livelihood . Yes some parents out of love , affection keep giving money to their earning children . excessive financing can lead to unnecessary expenditure and make habits bad . Once parents not able to give money many resort to borrowing , live life on credit which can lead to debt trap .  children should also evaluate that do they really financial support if not really required ? Either work hard for more money for own extravagance need or limit your needs as per your earning . Fiscal discipline is a must in everyone life . Live within your means . The more financially independent one person is he is more happy and stress free . Every person should ensure that he should be financially independent post retirement till his last breath . Do proper retirement planning . If financially dependent on your children then you are adding your own unhappiness and that too at fag end of your life . If financially independent in old age you live happily , get respect from your children , not considered as burden . Decide yourself .

·         Emotional dependence : This is most complex dependence of the three . Very difficult to judge the extent as is not as visible and quantifiable like first two . Since it is most complex the least emotional dependence on others the best it is . People say that one should have EQ and empathy but the more someone shows toward you , the more weaker you become mentally and psychologically . Believe in yourself and God . We do get mental comfort if soothing words are expressed but does that solve the problem ? . It does give you confidence and support but do we need someone else to build confidence or remove fear in ourselves , can’t we do it for ourselves ? Meditation , connecting with your inner self , getting answers from your inner self can do best than words of any else human being . Spend quality time with your self , seek strength from your inner self and almighty .

Any person who is least dependent physically , financially and emotionally on others is one of the  happiest persons on this earth . Check yourself and you will find what I have stated is true or not . So now you must have realised happiness or unhappiness is all your own creation and it is due to these 3 dependence level on others .